Release Suppressed Emotions
Emotion suppression involves intentionally avoiding distressing feelings by thinking of other things or holding things in, while emotion repression is defined by lack of conscious awareness of negative emotion, according to this study.
It concluded: Our analysis of a US nationally representative sample, followed for 12 years for mortality by cause of death, revealed significant associations between higher levels of emotion suppression and all-cause as well as cancer-related mortality.
This study says: Iwamitsu et al. reported that breast cancer patients with emotional suppression experienced more psychological distress than those with emotional expression after a breast cancer diagnosis. In addition, breast cancer patients with emotional suppression reportedly experienced more psychological distress than those with emotional expression post-diagnosis and 3 months after discharge. Our results after surgery are consistent with these reports. We also found that patients with emotional suppression consistently felt psychological distress after diagnosis and after surgery.
This study says: Our principal finding was a significant association between the diagnosis of breast cancer and a behaviour pattern, persisting throughout adult life, of abnormal release of emotions. This abnormality was, in most cases, extreme suppression of anger and, in patients over 40, extreme suppression of other feelings.
This study says: Emotion suppression may convey risk for earlier death, including death from cancer.
This study looking at breast cancer survival found that expression of emotion was related to better survival, and suppression of emotion was associated with worse survival
How to Heal Suppressed Emotional Pain in 5 Steps
- Be Aware of Avoidance and Denial
The desire to avoid pain is natural. In fact, avoidance and denial are defense mechanisms we often use as an attempt to keep ourselves in a happy, balanced state. But when we live in denial, we keep ourselves locked in a state of fear.
Sure, it’s normal to fear the possibility of what shining a flashlight on pain may bring. But in the process of healing ourselves, the first step is to become aware of the suppressed pain or negative experiences you’re avoiding. In fact, this is the only way you’re able to begin confronting the negative emotion that may be holding you back from living a truly peaceful life.
As suggested above, there’s an energetic blockage that occurs when we deny ourselves the gift of working through negative experiences. By shifting our attention to what we may normally choose to avoid, we heighten our self-awareness and take the first step towards healing.
- Identify Your Negative Emotion
Once you’ve acknowledged a suppressed negative emotion or experience, the next step is to confront and identify with the negative feeling. You may be familiar with the negative emotion, or you may require time and space to honestly explore and address the suppressed pain.
Allow yourself quiet time in solitude to conduct a thorough and honest investigation of your heart. Free writing in a journal, or speaking with a therapist is a helpful way to do this.
Daniel Siegel, psychiatrist and author, coined the phrase “name it to tame it.” By addressing and naming the negative emotion (you may even want to say it out loud to make it more tangible), you can work towards ‘taming’ or releasing the pain that’s attached to the emotion.
- Witness and Express Your Emotions— aka: “Feel it to Heal it”
Identifying negative emotion is a huge step towards health and vitality, but simply naming the issue isn’t enough. Your presence and attention is required to “stay” or feel through these emotions. When you stay with the emotions, you allow yourself to witness the issue in its entirety, detach, and examine it from different perspectives.
At this point in your healing, the intensity of riding the emotionally turbulent waves might have you ready to duck and run, which is completely normal. Despite any discomfort, allow yourself to stay with the emotion.
This might mean reflecting on past experiences, journaling, using various forms of artistic expression, or verbally expressing these feelings aloud to a trusted person. There’s a powerful shift that occurs when we allow ourselves to fully witness our experiences physically and emotionally. By expressing these emotions, we experience outlet, movement and release.
- Take Responsibility and Action
The negative event or trauma you experienced may have been out of your control, but the residue of these experiences, and the feelings, are your own.
In this fourth stage of emotional recovery, you take control of your present experience, by choosing how you emotionally respond to these past experiences. By taking responsibility in this way, you can redirect potential anger, pain and sadness towards forgiveness, acceptance and healing. You are taking away blame, empowering yourself and taking ownership of your health and happiness. You become captain of your own ship and choose what emotional state you want to exist in, in this present moment.
- Release and Rejoice
The final stage of healing is to release and let go of the negative emotions that no longer serve your highest self.
By releasing old pain, you open yourself up to new experiences, and the opportunity to experience more joy, love and light. Through the release of your negative emotions, you may notice your perspective has shifted and you’ve gained greater awareness, insight and a higher level of consciousness.
Imagine yourself as a great phoenix rising from the ashes and rejoicing in your freer, charged and enlightened self. Your psyche has now integrated and transformed your experience into something that is digestible and manageable.
Wading through negative emotions is incredibly intensive, turbulent and messy work, so when you arrive at this stage, ensure you take the time to honour yourself. Celebrate and rejoice your ability to heal and restore yourself.
Radical Remission: Surviving Cancer Against All Odds
Kelly Turner, PhD, a researcher who specializes in integrative oncology, studied one hundred cancer survivors and analysed over one thousand cases of people who experienced a “radical remission” from “incurable” cancer. She found that these people did not sit around waiting for a miracle, but made significant changes in their lives. Dr Kelley found nine healing factors common among all of the cases she studied. These nine key factors are:
- Radically changing your diet
- Taking control of your health
- Following your intuition
- Using herbs and supplements
- Releasing suppressed emotions
- Increasing positive emotions
- Embracing social support
- Deepening your spiritual connection
- Having strong reasons for living
See more at www.RadicalRemission.com.